Category Archives: Forgiveness

Notes on abjection and horror

Julia Kristeva writes,

It is thus not lack of cleanliness or health that causes abjection but what disturbs identity, system, order. What does not respect borders, positions, rules.

The in-between, the ambiguous, the composite. The traitor, the liar, the criminal with a good conscience, the shameless rapist, the killer who claims he is a savior. . . .

Any crime, because it draws attention to the fragility of the law, is abject, but premeditated crime, cunning murder, hypocritical revenge are even more so because they heighten the display of such fragility.

He who denies morality is not abject; there can be grandeur in amorality and even in crime that flaunts its disrespect for the law—rebellious, liberating, and suicidal crime.

Abjection, on the other hand, is immoral, sinister, scheming, and shady: a terror that dissembles, a hatred that smiles, a passion that uses the body for barter instead of inflaming it, a debtor who sells you up, a friend who stabs you.

Are you learning to let go and forgive?

Let go of grudges and forgive!

Empower yourself by learning to let go and forgiving others. In the process, you may also learn to forgive yourself!

+ Consider value of forgiveness and its importance in your life.

+ Reflect on facts of situation and your reaction

+ Reflect on their effect on your life, health and well-being

+ Move away from seeing yourself as victim

+ Release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life

+ Actively choose to forgive the person who’s offended you


How will you combat terrorism?

After a massive manhunt following the Boston Marathon bombing, we can ask ourselves many questions. Many will want to know why.

The act of terrorism causes stress; adversity and trauma strike. You will experience anger, grief and pain.

How do you combat terrorism?

You become resilient.

You keep functioning — physically and psychologically.

Resilience isn’t about toughing it out, being stoic or going it alone. In fact, being able to reach out to others for support is a key to your resilience.


Attentive listening

aPrayer lite, the free English version of my new app, aPrayer, is available at the AppStore!

You can download it now and enjoy a few minutes of attentive listening.


Photography courtesy of Paul Glaesser.